Your tea. -That’s pretty — very pretty. -I remember the day
I met my stepmom. I remember going
to a restaurant. I remember her giving me
a Shirley Temple and telling me I could have
whatever I want on the menu. She was aware of everything. She would come into a room —
You know, especially if it was a restaurant,
she would come in there, “They don’t have a napkin,
they don’t have a plate, they need this”
— you know, very just on it. And now she’s, like, touching a napkin just to, like,
put in her pocket. Such a deep contrast
to what she is now, that I sometimes forget
who she was. -Hi.
I’m B Smith. Welcome to “B Smith With Style.” -She was a mass communicator
on a personal level. And then she got
the opportunity, through television and pictures
and different mediums, to communicate her inner self
through her outer beauty. -What’s not to like about the
Jamaican Spice Festival, right? -The smile. Nobody who ever meets
her remarks how amazing her smile is,
because it comes from her soul. Sit down. -Where do you want to be?
-No, sit down right here. -Sit down here.
-Okay. -Perfect. -When you had everything
in the form of a person — the perfect person for you — and you watch them
slowly dissolve, and you go down with them, it took me into depths
of despair and depression that no one
will ever really understand. You all right?
-Mm-hmm, yes, if you’re there. I talked to mother —
I told Mom — -What did your mom say?
-Mm-hmm-hmm. -I saw the change in my dad,
when it came to him not being able to change. Like, he was just getting —
And it was affecting him — her not listening to him. -Where were you, Dan?
-Put them in the water. -Oh.
-I committed to, like, “I’m going to stay here
until she’s better,” not knowing that
there is no better. It was going to be just decline, and I just couldn’t
leave my dad. -B.
-B. -No “B.”
Where is the “B”? -[chuckles] You want the color? -No, no color.
-No, no color. -Hmm, very nice.
-I remember, he was like, “I want to talk
to you about something.” I was like, “Well, what?
You’re dating?” And he was like,
“How did you know?” And I was like, “I’ve been 16,
I’ve been 18, I’ve hid stuff from parents.” -You know, I’ve been married
for 26 years. I’ve been with B 27 1/2 years. Alex and I are now
going on a year and a half being together. I believe in the sanctity
of marriage, but I don’t believe “death do you part” means that because
you’ve made a commitment, if the person is not there, that you should sit there
and watch your life shrivel up. And that’s why I am
where I am today, taking care of B and
having someone else in my life. -Dan always said,
“You know what? I wish you guys had met years
before and had –” we had met years before — but had gotten the chance
to get closer, because I could have seen you
the best of girlfriends.” And I feel that,
being around her, because when I come here,
she’s always excited to see me. I’m always excited to see her. As awkward as it may seem
on the outside, it doesn’t seem awkward
on the inside. -She’s helping.
She’s an asset. She’s putting in time. She’s putting in work. And so I love them together. They make sense. -I never envisioned myself
in this type of situation, you know,
as a woman — as a grown woman. However, I don’t live a day
without thinking of B or about B,
even if I’m not around her. -B and I are a package,
and this woman who is in my life now understood
that and cared about that. And when I met her, she saw
the loneliness in my eyes, the tiredness in my eyes,
and she was there for me. Normally, you’d say,
“Well, I will outlive her,” but I don’t know that,
but I only hope I do because I wouldn’t want
someone else to have that
tremendous responsibility. And even saying that hurts,
because when you love someone, you don’t want to think of them
in the past in the now. -[laughs] -It’s like a perfect, like a — what’s that?
— dodgeball. It’s like a perfect size
for a dodgeball.